For
example, a woman may dream that her husband
is having a sexual affair, but it would
be a mistake to conclude that her husband
is really having an affair. The dream is
simply providing the woman graphic evidence
that she somehow feels betrayed by her husband.
Once she acknowledges that feeling, she
can then start examining her life consciously—and
honestly—to find out why she feels
betrayed and what she needs to do about
it.
All
dreams essentially tell us one important
thing: “Wake up!” That is, just
as you must wake up from a dream to remember
it, the dream itself is telling you to “wake
up” to the truth that you try to hide
from others—and from yourself.
Of
course, there is a positive as well as a
negative side to remembering and interpreting
your dreams.
The
negative side is that you may come across
a side of yourself that you really don't
like or are afraid to know about. You may
discover that you aren't (always) the "Miss
Goody Two Shoes" or "Mr. Nice
Guy" that you profess to be during
the day. You may discover that your childhood
was not all ice cream, roller-skating and
amusement parks. You may end up shedding
light on dark places and recall secrets
long repressed. This can be scary stuff.
The
positive side is that you go through a metamorphosis
or catharsis and become -- you. You become
the “you” that you were always
meant to be. You will become truer to yourself
and therefore, you will find that you are
happier.
Learning
to recall your dreams may help you become
a more assertive, creative person. In remembering
your dreams, you are expressing and confronting
your feelings. Remembering your dreams can
help you come to terms with stressful aspects
of your lives.
But
this may be easier said than done. Five
minutes after the end of the dream, half
the content is forgotten. After ten minutes,
90% is lost. Dreamers, who are awakened
right after REM sleep, are able to recall
their dreams more vividly than those who
slept through the night until morning.
Obviously,
remembering your dreams is vital to interpreting
them. So, how
can you better remember your dreams?
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